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How can I tell if he likes me? How can I tell if he loves me? Is it Love at first site?Answer these simple love test questions by ticking the appropriate boxes then check your score on the next page to see if your score means you've scored. But think carefully and be honest- some of the questions in this love test may be more tricky than you think.

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Your First Love

First love is pure and special. It fills the hearts of both women and men with inexplicable feelings. You can date as many guys as you want, but you will never forget your first love. I have met many old people who spoke about their first loves as if it happened a year ago. They remember the tiniest details like where they met for the first time, or what they were wearing. My mom once told me that people who don’t remember their first love have never loved anyone.
Whether your first love didn’t work out, or you’ve just fallen in love for the first time, here are the most important things you will always remember about your first love:

Do You Deserve Love?

7 Wonderful Reasons You Deserve Love

Unfortunately, the world is a lonely place for many people, especially for those who have been hurt for many times. In spite of heartbreaks you should look for a person who will really appreciate you. We often suffer from love, because it is part of pain and part of something wonderful at the same time. Sometimes it’s necessary to struggle for your love and happiness. That’s why you shouldn’t become despondent if something is going wrong in your relationships. You should realize that you are wonderful and unique in this world. Just remove the blocks of unworthiness and let yourself feel happy and loved. Here are 7 reasons why you deserve love for you to read and keep in mind.

15 Signs Great Girlfriend

15 Signs That You Have A Great Girlfriend

If you’re dating a girl, check off these 15 signs that you have a great girlfriend. If you find a girl who fits this description, hold onto her!

15 Signs That You Genuinely Love What You’re Doing

You either like your job, or you hate it – right? It’s not really that simple, because you need to genuinely love what you’re doing! Loving your job means you feel like your life has a greater purpose, and you’re not working just for the paycheck – you want to make a difference in the world. Check out these signs and see if you should stay with your current job, or search for something that will be more fulfilling for your life.

Love and Compassion

Love and Compassion are Necessities

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. - Dalai Lama
Communication is absolutely vital for every relationship, whether it’s with a spouse, a child, a parent, or a dear friend. In our harried, hectic daily lives, we can often forget just how important simple acts are for maintaining a strong, healthy connection, but by devoting some time to re-establishing those connective threads with those we love, we can keep our bonds strong.

9 Ways To Enhance Love And Intimacy With Your Loved One

Your relationship is only as good as you make it. For a happy and successful relationship, apply these nine ways to enhance love and intimacy today.

Facts You Probably Don’t Know About Love

10 Crazy Facts You Probably Don’t Know About Love

When you think about love, you probably picture couples holding hands or driving off into the sunset together. You might picture yourself falling in love with the one special person of your dreams. You might even have a list of things your perfect mate should embody. The thing is, there are many biological factors that go into “falling in love.” Love is overly romanticized in today’s culture, so you probably don’t know these scientific facts about love.

Falling in love is exciting. Colors seem brighter. Obstacles seem to vanish. The whole world is a more beautiful place because of our newfound lover. Although this may seem true at the moment, some of those strong feelings are occurring due to chemicals released in the brain. Although the science behind love isn’t extremely romantic, it is quite fascinating to realize the complexity of our bodies.

Love Has Taught

17 Lessons Love Has Taught Us

Love. It makes the world go ‘round, right? Well, at least that’s the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn’t either of those things. But these 17 things are. So here are the lessons that real love teaches us:

Love your website this Valentine’s Day

This Valentine’s Day treat your website with a fresh look.

Get your website all that it needs & make it feel special. Your website needs action, so that your audience not only sits up and notices it but, virtually falls in love with it.
We have some suggestions about how you can rejuvenate your website this Valentine’s Day.

Power of Touch

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Congratulations!  You’ve done it!  This is the last video in 6 Simple Strategies For a Sexy State of Mind.

It’s my favorite one, the Power of Touch!

Touch is a very profound way to connect with your body.  So often, you disconnect from your body for various reasons; stress, trauma, illness, culture, lack of time – a way of protecting yourself and your emotions.

You might have a lifestyle that’s so jammed packed with responsibilities that you rarely make time to focus your attention on your body and what feels good!

You can often miss the messages your body is giving you.

I’m talking about the message of PLEASURE!  This is something you might push aside for as a woman you are naturally a nurturer and giver.

I’m here to tell you that it’s your birthright to seek PLEASURE and this is the beginning.

I recommend some self massage as a way of discovering what areas are sensitive, what areas are holding stress, and for coming home to your body. Again, focus on awareness and what FEELS wonderful, warm and yummy. What areas of your body are unexpectedly sensitive to touch?  Describe how it feels to nurture yourself?

I hope that you’ve enjoyed these videos and gleaned some tips on creating your SEXY STATE of MIND.

There is soooo much more I’m dying to share with you. I can hardly contain myself.

Head on over to http://susanleemiller.com/discover-session/ and apply for your NO COST Discover Your Inner Sexy session with me.

I’m looking forward to sharing this journey of self discovery with you!

Say YES to feeling  SEXY, VIBRANT, and JUICY and being ready to live a sensual life.

Love,


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Love is in the air!

Love is in the air!

Writing is a lot like a relationship. There are great highs, terrible lows, as well as wonderful moments when the relationship between the author and their writing just clicks. However, sometimes there are also symptoms of blind love. This occurs when an author fails to recognize when their writing is flawed and still needs work. Alternately, there's the over-controlling author who just won't leave their writing alone and will over-edit their work.

Have a great relationship with your writing by finding balance: Know when you need to put time into your relationship with your writing and learn to let it go.

Whatever your relationship with your writing, remember:

It's okay to love your writing. Just don't love your writing.

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Strawberry Avocado for Love Your Heart

Strawberry Avocado Smoothie with Dates and Hemp Seeds for Love Your Heart & GIVEAWAYS!

Today marks the first in a series of recipes featuring heart-healthy ingredients that I will be bringing to you along with Nicole of Prevention RD, Lauren of Healthy Food for Living, and Amy and Natalie of Super Healthy Kids.

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Clingy Love

Clingy Love – A Correspondence

Published on January 7, 2014 by Mark Banschick, M.D. in The Intelligent Divorce

Clingy Love:
Many of us know what it's like to fall in love. The rush of feeling, that sense of vitality, and that gaze  you can’t get enough of…it goes on and on.
Yet love often falls flat. It burns out or gets TOO intense. You find yourself needing space, or demanding ALL his time. You worry when you don’t hear from her, or you begin to feel anxious when you do. Does she really love me? Is he losing interest?

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• How to Make Love Last

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When Love Triggers Problems:
Love can be hazardous, yet it opens the door to our greatest dreams. It can lead to connection and bliss. It can also lead to hurt and rejection.And, often both with the same person!!  In past posts I proposed the idea of a Field of Intimacy, where so much psychological baggage gets opened. If you handle it, you’ve got a love to last. If you don’t, watch out.
Here’s a touching comment from an intelligent reader. She is responding to a piece called, Field of Intimacy. Does her story remind you of someone you know?
A Reader's Question:
Thank you for writing an article that was neither silly nor pretentious. This article speaks to so many issues I have dealt with all of my adult life. Myromantic relationships are riddled with rage, worry, and fear of abandonment. Waves of happiness and moments of deep intimacy make my sinew physically recoil. Irrational fears, controlling behavior, and emotional neediness have destroyed potentially healthy relationships all of my life. Even potential to friendships, or just to happiness in general, I viscerally react. Eye contact, even. Mine is scattered and sporadic and uncomfortable.
But here is the kicker: My mother and father created and raised me in a beautiful, stable home filled with unconditional love and proactiveparenting. My mother breastfed me until I was maybe one. She read to me. She drove me to school. Her life revolved around our family, and not in an unhealthy way. My father went to work every morning at 7, came home every night at 6, we ate dinner as a family, and he happily washed the dishes to give my mom a break. In short, I believe that she was an excellent mother and wife, and he was an excellent father and husband. They are still married after 46 years.
So what gives? My brother and sister are both married, happy, and have beautiful children. Me, I am perpetually falling for yet another guy, spending the first third of the relationship in a romantic frenzy and the second two thirds on an emotional free fall of ALL or NOTHING. "I love you/this is never going to work/I love you/You're going to leave me/I love you/Please please don't leave." And I eventually wear them out, and their love for me no longer outweighs the exhaustion of trying to calm me down and comfort my worry. They fell in love with a cool, kind, fun-loving woman and wind up with an anxiety-ridden child.
If my first experience with love was beautiful and warm and caring, why am I so spiky and fiery and hostile, thirty years later?
The Road to Neediness:
There is a lot of pain here and I am sorry.
The fact is that we don't completely understand how people end up needy. There are many roads to Rome, and sometimes it is a combination of many factors. Here are some thoughts. Perhaps something will ring true for you.

• The Role of Abandonment: Clinginess may have its origins in abandonment, trauma or unavailable parents. This is a common explanation. You get close and then dormant wounds become alive again. You are a competent woman, who finds herself impossibly demanding. The source lies in a painful past.

•  The Role of Temperament: Or, it may develop more benignly, because some kids are constitutionally demanding. As infants they take longer to warm up AND settle down. Such kids may internalize parents differently than those who settle with ease. The good enough parent can never be truly enough. The problem may lie in a person’s temperament.

•  The Role of Development: Or, some people get stuck in the idealizing part of development which gets activated during romance. Intimacy is a field which digs deeply into the psychology of early life. We all idealize our folks as young kids and this idealization can get reactivated as adult romance. But, love is not simply romance. It is making life work with a person that we love. Romance transitions into love. If you have a developmental immaturity then this transition may be difficult.

•  The Role of the Oedipus Complex: Or, some people recreate the childhood experience of being unable to get what they really want. Freud labeled this phenomenon the unresolved Oedipus Complex. It goes like this: We adore our mother or father. We are unable to have them for ourselves. We recreate this drama in adult life by choosing partners that will never really choose us, or by pushing them away in our anxiety to hold onto something that weunconsciously believe that we can't have. Some psychologists believe that this formulation is farfetched. I don’t.

• The Role of Experience: Finally, we are all moved by experience. Just as we learn from childhood, we also learn from adult life. Many of us don’t learn from experience, but rather repeat the same mistakes over and over again. You are hurt by someone, and you are injured. You look for others like her, with the hope of overcoming it this next time. You regress and get needy. She rejects you. And, the cycle repeats. The mind can be quite rigid. And, attraction to someone we can’t have can become habit.

There are many roads to an unhappy Rome. It may start with a temperament issue and then get locked in by the pain of repeated rejections. Or, abuse can lead you to seek partners who can’t give you what you need. If you want something better, that is a good thing.
Clinginess poisons love.
          And therapy can detoxify clinginess.
The mind can act habitually, with love and fear of rejection near the top of the list. By objectifying your experience, therapy offers an opportunity to try something new. Habits, no matter how ingrained, can only be managed if you know when they're activated.
Don’t lose hope. The sweet thing about being an adult is that the future is not set in stone.
You have some choice.
Hope this helps.
MB
Here three pieces that may be of use.
https://my.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201302/bad-memories-8-ways-detox-yourself
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201208/are-y...
https://my.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201208/why-n...
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